11 Problems In Long Distance Relationship

     11 Problems In Long Distance Relationship

Do you think distance puts an end to our valuable relationship? Is it the main troubleshooter or something else? According to me, there are some other invisible factors which cause the death of intimate relationships. The main culprit is perhaps the disappointment between what you expect from these relationships and what you get from these people. This gap widens as the time passes by which is easier when it's a long distance relationship.

LDR Problem 1:

Intimacy

Many people actually prefer long-distance relationships. A client exclaimed: “Perfect, I see him on Saturday nights and that’s enough. I’m too busy to be bothered during the week and Sundays I have chores to do.” Okay, that seems to make sense. But some of these individuals have intimacy issues that may “never” abide. Many of them wish to connect at a distance; push the connection any closer and you'll see real problems..

LDR Problem 2:

Dependence on technology

In a long distance relationship, partners come to love and hate technology at the same time. While it helps them bring closer, it also creates a rift between them. Technology acts as a double-edged sword – an enabling medium of bringing your loved ones closer whilst also pushing them apart, in ways that aren’t blatant. How, you’d ask. When one is constantly texting their beloved to share details of their day, staying updated on their activities through social media, seeing them whenever they want through FaceTime, Google Hangout or Skype, talking twenty times in the day during wonky work hours for a few minutes and even SnapChat-ting when a particular ice cream truck reminds you of them or spamming them with sappy romantic numbers on a song app, it is but inevitable that ‘time made for some REAL sharing,’ when you actually get to talk after a long day, has already been devoured by the virtual glutton. As such, technology divides in ways that aren’t immediately visible until the cracks begin to appear.

LDR Problem 3:

Jealousy dominates the relationship.

Jealousy is a relationship-killer, especially in a long distance relationship. If your conversations revolve around interrogations, accusations or wariness about setting off jealousy in one or both of you, you’ve definitely got a problem.
Main Issue In Every Long Distence Relationship And Most Of LDR Breakup Are Done Only Becouse Of This

LDR Problem 4:

You find yourself thinking of someone else:

We think about the things that are most important to us. If your partner is slowly dropping from the number one spot on your mind and someone else’s pretty face is taking up occupancy, it might be a sign that you are having trouble with the long distance status of your relationship.

LDR Problem 5:

You spend more of your time feeling sad about the relationship than you do feeling happy:

Being in an LDR, you will inevitably have days when you feel sad and lonely. That’s normal. What isn’t normal is feeling depressed, becoming withdrawn or feeling sad all of the time. Relationships are supposed to be a happy occurrence, not one that induces crippling sadness.
When you start feeling overly sad about your relationship in this way, that is a large warning sign that your relationship is turning toxic and that LDRs might not be the best type of relationship for you.

LDR Problem 6: 

Absence of tangible support

Another stumbling block for partners in a long distance relationship is the conspicuous ‘presence’ of the ‘absence of another.’ No matter the evolution of technology, there still seems to be a tangible aspect of ‘presence’ missing from long distance relationships owing to a lack of support in good times and bad – coz there are times when a promotion or a loss of a loved one just cannot be celebrated or grieved for over a phone call. 

LDR Problem 7:

Depression

Depression can set in for individuals in a long distance relationship when the pangs of loneliness begin to eat away at the essence of their mental health. A conspicuous lack of fulfillment (emotional or otherwise) and a discernible discrepancy between the image in their head and the reality of their situation can cause the long distance lover to be depressed. The long-term effects of depression can be harmful to the health of the individual partner and that of the relationship.

LDR Problem 8:

Fights and Arguments?Constant?

We all know that fights and arguments are normal in a relationship. But are they normal when they happen too often and when they lead to a lot of stress and worries? …I believe not!
So, how do we deal with long distance relationship fights in a way that does not make us stressed and restless?From my experience dealing with fights successfully is all about seeing things from a different perspective than we usually do.It’s not a war. When we normally start an argument we see each other as two opponents that have an issue to “debate”. Therefore we get angry, maybe yell at each other, blame each other and we forget that we actually have a relationship and that we love each other.We tend to focus on bringing the right arguments, finding excuses etc. and forget that we are actually in a relationship, and we want to be happy, both of us want that.So the idea here is: when you’re having an argument to remember that you are both on the same side, it’s not a war, it’s your relationship and the real enemy is the conflict itself not your partner. Thus you want to work on solving the conflict together rather than blaming each other.Another piece of advice that I can give you is clarifying a problem or conflict when it arises. Unless is too late in the evening and you’re both tired and can’t think rationally anymore, never end a conversation without clarifying a conflict.This is important because you don’t want to leave a conflict “in the air” and let it affect both of you for a longer period of time than necessary. As soon as a problem arises, talk it trough and don’t end the conversation until you’re both on the same page and things are back to normal.

LDR Problem 9:

Neglecting other important relationships and Growing apart.

Are you spending all your spare time on your phone or computer? If you focus all your free time and energy on your long distance love, your relationships with those close to you will suffer. In a nutshell: this is bad news.
You will be happier and healthier in life if you have a strong network of friends beyond your partner. To do that, you need to spend time connecting with them.
When your love moves far away and some aspects of your relationship pause or slow down, the rest of life continues. You don’t stop learning and growing and changing just because the person you love isn’t there every day. Neither do they. You are both accumulating experiences. Some of these experiences will change you.
When you’re in a long distance relationship it can be harder to identify ways in which your partner is changing and track with them through that process. The reverse is also true.
No matter how much you love each other, there is a real chance that a slow drift during your time apart will cause you to grow away from each other in ways that frequent flier miles cannot fix.

LDR Problem 10:

Stonewalling.

People sometimes Tell me about their long distance relationship and say something like this: “My boyfriend hasn’t answered my calls or texts for three days now. I don’t know what I did wrong. What should I do?”
That, my friends, is stonewalling. It is using silence as a weapon or an escape. It is controlling the situation by simply refusing to engage. Distance makes this particularly easy to do, and it can drive your long distance partner crazy with frustration, second-guessing, and self-doubt.

LDR Problem 11:

Boring Conversations

While talking is generally the only thing that we can do online with our partner, at some point we drain out all the conversational topics and as a result awkward silences start to kick in, or the conversations become more and more predictable and boring. Now, even though this is a very common issue, it can be easily solved if taking some time to spice things up.

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